February 2017

Dear Friends,

As we celebrate Valentine’s Day this month, I remember a story about a golden anniversary party that was thrown for an elderly couple. The husband was moved by the occasion and wanted to tell his wife just how he felt about her. She was very hard of hearing, however, and often misunderstood what he said. With many family members and friends gathered around, he toasted her: “My dear wife, after fifty years I’ve found you tried and true!” Everyone smiled approval, but his wife said, “Eh?” He repeated louder, “After fifty years I’ve found you tried and true!” His wife harumped and shot back, “Well, let me tell you something—after fifty years I’m tired of you, too!”

When we first marry, we are carried along by the first blush of love’s passion. Everything is new and fresh. With anticipation of each new discovery comes excitement. The feelings of romance feed on this excitement. We are carried away by the feeling of falling in love. Then, as the years past, life turns routine. Marriage and family exert their daily demands. The excitement of first blush romance seems far away. Captured by a pervading sense of loss, the longing to recapture the magic of time now gone beckons like the smell of baking bread. Here are some suggestions how we can rebuild and recapture that “loving feeling.”

1) Do the things that helped you fall in love the first time. Treat them special, go to new places, share your dreams for the future, talk about your plans, and go for quite walks to be alone together.
2) Look for something each week to give thanks for in your partner; something new, something fresh, something captivating. It’s there if you’ll only look.
3) Do romantic things with your partner; surprise him/her with something new and different just for fun. Do something they know is not your favorite thing to do, but they love to do. 4) Ask God to help you find the feeling of falling in love with the one who has shown they love you for a lifetime.

I think if you’ll follow these suggestions, you’ll be surprised that you can recapture the excitement and love with the one who has been most faithful and familiar over all the years! And you’ll never have the occasion to say to your spouse, “I’m tired of you, too See you, Sunday.

God’s richest blessings,
Dave